Why does he want his friends cast offs (me)?

I dated this guy a few months, was going great, he planned trips with me and said things such as:

'I'm keeping you'

'You're perfect'

'Please don't leave me'

I did some REMOTELY sexual things with him...

Yet when I asked him straight: 'Are we together?' He said no, sorry, I'm not ready for a relationship.

He then talked normal for a day, didn't talk the next day, couldn't come to mine, he had to see his sick nan (he was out clubbing), then said sorry, I don't think this will work. It's not you, it's me and my own f***'d head, he said he had abandonment issues etc.

Then 4 days later, his friend (Guy B) added me on myspace, then cleared his myspace of superman backgrounds, myspace quizzes, etc.

Guy B used to tell guy A that I was great, perfect, etc, because guy A repeated it all back to me.

Guy B and Guy A are in competition constantly. And Guy A tries to put Guy B down.

I think Guy B just wants sex... if so, how can I get them both back for this?! I can't just let this go...

Thanks.

Why does he want his friends cast offs (me)?

Guy A: He backed off for whatever reason. The reasons could be myriad. However, he proved his character as a liar (out clubbing when he said he was visiting his sick nan). Character defines us all. Move on!

Guy B: Changed his Myspace in response to you. He wants to please you. It may be that he and Guy A are competing, but changing his Myspace is a commitment of sorts and very public.

Education about Nature: If you're dating, you will eventually have sex. It is the goal. There is no other reason for a male and female to get together than for this goal at some point, otherwise we would all be asexual or unisexual. Even if you are saving yourself for marriage, saving for anything implies an eventual goal. However ...

I don't mean to sound cold because this process is not a cold one between most people. The thing is to find the right one and then stick to it. That is as long as you are looking for monogamous in the long run. It sounds like you are societally within the norm and this is your goal too. But the fact is they go together. Don't curse the process.

When we first start dating we want someone that turns us on. If Guy B doesn't do that for you, that's fine; he's not the one. But don't damn him for trying to win your attention.

Oh, and revenge? Better give yourself a check-up from the neck up. That isn't very good character either.

You're probably very nice under most circustances. You're just hurt. Don't let that feeling turn you into someone you would not feel good about facing in the mirror each day.

Good Luck

Why does he want his friends cast offs (me)?

Hi NoLogic. Your very welcome. I was only able to give you my perspective. I'm glad it helped. I am uncomfortable listing my email address as part of a comment. I tryed to add you to my contact list but I can't figure out how. If you can, let me know. Report It

Why does he want his friends cast offs (me)?

he only tells U what U want to hear--so he can have sex with U...WAKE UP BABE---AND FIND A REAL GUY...THIS 1 IS A BUM A USER...U need a guy who will show U respect...he is not the 1 !!!

Why does he want his friends cast offs (me)?

Respect yourself, hold your head and high and cut the contact with both- guy B could well be using you as part of a competition and no-one deserves that. Just forget them both-im not sure how old you are put I had something when I was 15 and look back of how I handled it and smile- I can guarentee that reappearing after 10 years since they last saw you looking hot and with someone great will be all the revenge you need :)

good luck